Herpes: So much pressure for the person who has it to tell, but what about for the people who know?
Does anyone else agree that people who have herpes are extremely pressured to tell everyone they “might” come into sexual contact with, and there is absolutely no pressure expressed by any professionals that the people who are told should KEEP IT A SECRET?!
Why should people who have herpes tell other people they have it when these other people tell OTHER PEOPLE, like friends and even worse, mutual friends?
Does anyone else agrees it makes it harder for people with herpes to want to “do their job”?
May 29th, 2010 at 4:28 am
Thats why you should only have sex with someone you completely trust! I have herpes and I don’t have sex much at all (mostly in fear of spreading it). The couple people I do have sex with know about me having herpes and they have told no one.
May 29th, 2010 at 4:55 am
It’s not a medical professionals job to pick your friends or partners. You should use your own judgment who to tell or not. Another reason why you should realize sex is not something you just do, it’s supposed to mean something and that’s why you’d wait until you trusted a person before you haul off and do them!
May 29th, 2010 at 6:40 am
of course, nobody wants other people to know but its still a moral obligation to tell your partner. if they are good people they will keep it to themselves, if they don’t then most likely the person that squealed on you will get treated like a bitch by the people she told.
if i had an STD like that i would tell and always be safe, plus i would wait to have sex until we got to a point in our relationship that they could handle it. like after you guys get to the i love you part.
May 29th, 2010 at 6:46 am
I totally agree. But you should still tell your partner, if they love you enough they shouldn’t tell anyone else, and if they do tell someone else should they really be your partner?
May 29th, 2010 at 7:36 am
Harder to do your job if you have herpes? I would have to say its time for a new career
May 29th, 2010 at 11:03 am
well, i mean, if im gonna do someone, and they have herpes, id really hope they tell me prior to doing “it”. That way i can wear a condom and be maybe ok, if u just wing it, someones gonna get it. Cuz u CAN spread herpes even when its not broken out, so… tell people, please
May 29th, 2010 at 11:29 am
i agree that’s why i don’t really mess around like that, but u just gotta make sure it’s somebody that’s trustworthy, u can’t just meet them and say hi my name is bill i have herpes, get to know them, see how mature they are only tell them if u think they can keep it to themselves